5 Simple Ways we DESTROY Our Dreams

The Godfather of Dreams

The Godfather of Dreams

Many of us are extremely hopeful individuals, at least at first. When we set out to do anything, our hope usually exceeds our doubt by a ratio of at least 1 million to one.

As the pursuit of our dreams progress and we actually see that it is a bit more challenging than our fantasy made it seem, that ratio quickly begins to fall from the heavens and levels out to a more realistic ratio of 1 to 10 (hope to doubt).

Sadly, this happens to many of us throughout life.

Here are the 5 simple ways we turn our hopeful dreams, into cobweb filled fantasies.

Listen to yourself.

Listen to yourself.

And occasionally others

And occasionally others

1. Failing to listen to others for what their message is, then discarding the nonsense.

– Too many times we hate, or do not listen to “negative” messages because we think they will taint the image of our dream. This is true, but running or ignoring people allows those messages to develop into doubt.

Usually family and friends cannot understand a dream the way you do, so listening to their comments will at least clear the air. This allows them to start thinking for you.

2. Thinking about the finances.

– Times get rough and makes many of us either rush the process, or develop doubts about the path that we are taking to our dreams.

 

Choices

                               Choices

 

3. Proper Planning.

– Few of us plan our dreams properly, so mistakes/mis-steps are common. These will usually prove to the nay-sayers that we ignored initially that they were ‘right”, and eventually, we will begin to believe them and stop believing in ourselves.

4. One track-mindedness.

– Many of us stick to one idea and prepare to buckle down no matter what happens. This mindset is very useful, yet by allowing thoroughly combed information to enter the picture permits clearer solutions to flow.

5. Doubts.

– Most of us think doubting the vision means it will fail.

Entertain the doubts to see if they truly hold weight, it may just be a chance to address minor worries. Ignoring doubt will only keep your mind on it.

 

Take your time or you will lose every time.

Take your time or you will lose every time.

 

Manú

And occasionally others

The 10 Rules You Need to Communicate Effectively

Creating more effective speakers everyday.

TIME

Frank Luntz has “engineered some of the most potent political and corporate campaigns of the last decade.” His wordsmithing helped Republican Rudy Giuliani get elected twice in New York — a city where Democrats outnumber Republicans 5-to-1.

Luntz and his polling firm have learned a great deal about language by conducting nearly 1500 surveys and focus groups for a wide range of products and politicians.

The key takeaway from his book is actually part of the title:

It’s not what you say, it’s what people hear.

In Words That Work: It’s Not What You Say, It’s What People Hear Luntz breaks down the ten main lessons he’s learned from years of crafting political messages; lessons we can all learn from:

1) Simplicity: Use Small Words

“Avoid words that might force someone to reach for the dictionary… because most Americans won’t. They’ll just placidly let your real meaning sail over their…

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Where You Find The Person You’re Going To Become

It is a wonder how it all gets cloudy as we grow, and when that moment hits we remember again. What an amazing realization.

Thought Catalog

It began when I was small.

My first out-of-body experiences happened very much within my body, while I stared at my little hand. 

I would hold it out in front of me until the background focus shifted away from my awareness and the colors somehow morphed in that odd and unexplainable way they do and I did my best not to blink because the more I could focus the higher I could get on this very idea that my name was Brianna. 

This hand belongs to this body, and this body belongs to this name, and this name is this collection of audible sounds.

I spent a lot of time convincing myself I was who I was when I was a kid. I knew I was weird, that much was apparent from what I gathered from how other kids treated me, but what I didn’t know was that I wasn’t “weird,”…

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If You Haven’t Worked a Day in Your Life, You Probably Don’t Love Anything

Too many times has this crossed my mind as I completed something that I love. Work is inevitable, especially when you are passionate. My friends will agree.

The Indisputable Dirt

You’ve heard it before, the beloved aphorism from the ever-intriguing Confucius;

“Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life.”

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I’ve also heard it attributed to Albert Einstein, but the internet tells me that Confucius coined it, so we’ll go with that. Regardless, you’ve probably seen it in the form of a meme, pinned a thousand times on Pinterest, shared on Facebook, tweeted on twitter, etc…

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 ^stuff like this^

I understand why the quote is so popular. There is something inspiring, something hopeful about it. It is just poetic enough to sound reasonable, just vague enough to withstand any serious scrutiny.

The only problem, of course, is that it is almost entirely false.

If the phrase was not so oft-quoted, if I did not think it influenced people’s decisions, I wouldn’t be writing this post. But from where I stand, this…

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The Nature of Writing

As I humbly sit here I begin contemplating how to share my next thoughts with you. My mind races over the foundation of where it all conceptualized.

How did we as a species start writing? Why have we explored this field so indepth? Where will it take us?

Those are the simple inquiries that fill my head when thinking about this majestic art that I dearly cherish.

Sometimes I ponder why people write anything. Then again, maybe there is no need to wonder when you look at the examples in history.

The events that occured.
The moments that called out to our souls.
The emotions that people desired to express; the ones that pictures or film could not capture.

Writing and its enigmatic nature has fascinated millions, we have gotten to a point where the compelling thoughts of one’s mind can now shake mountains and essays are effortlessly sung and verbalized over rhythm to ignite deeply held feelings.

The very essence of this immaculate expression is overlooked by those that do not value the centuries of research. The tireless hours of perfecting syntax. The sheer power of a completely thought out and pristinely edited text.

Maybe it’s just me, maybe I’m just enthralled by its nature as I am with everything that captures my attention. But without the beauty of this art form, tens of millions of prominent ideas would be lost in history leaving the generations to come decades to rediscover the groundbreaking technologies that our predecessors have dedicated lifetimes to unearth.

I am happy to continuously explore the nature of writing because through the relationship that I am developing with it I will enhance the true meaning of expression.

Manú

Once More

When I awoke one morning my mind spoke to me and told me to be better than the day before. Of course I knew exactly what it meant, but I did not know in what areas. So it was then I opened my eyes and sat up to figure out what exactly I did to challenge myself, and at that moment I stopped thinking and said aloud, “It doesn’t matter what I did yesterday, all that matters is what I plan to do today.”

Once more I had the ability to make a difference in my life, so it is that mindset that I will carry with me each morning.